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	<title>Comments on: People-Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Ten Reasons to Reschool</title>
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	<description>What Do You Want to Learn Today?</description>
	<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:01:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: Melia</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-2914</link>
		<dc:creator>Melia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Jan 2009 05:10:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ohhhh, nooooo is right! I swear that I use that phrase at least ten times a day, still.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ohhhh, nooooo is right! I swear that I use that phrase at least ten times a day, still.</p>
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		<title>By: Margaret</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-2910</link>
		<dc:creator>Margaret</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:04:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>"Tuna melt or turkey and avocaco? Ohhh, nooooo!" lol.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Tuna melt or turkey and avocaco? Ohhh, nooooo!&#8221; lol.</p>
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		<title>By: Melia</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-605</link>
		<dc:creator>Melia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Oct 2008 04:48:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Just so everyone knows, Darren's story is true. I aspire to have such a crush on myself.

Ben, wouldn't it be great if you could be a perfectionist only when it served you? Yes, I've definitely had some revelations lately about creating expectations about what Reschool Yourself should be, and I'm dedicated to just letting it unfold as I'd hoped I would from the beginning.

Carol, I thought of you when deciding what to eat at an Italian restaurant the other night. Tuna melt or turkey &#038; avocado? I like to tell myself, "This is not a cosmic crisis."</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just so everyone knows, Darren&#8217;s story is true. I aspire to have such a crush on myself.</p>
<p>Ben, wouldn&#8217;t it be great if you could be a perfectionist only when it served you? Yes, I&#8217;ve definitely had some revelations lately about creating expectations about what Reschool Yourself should be, and I&#8217;m dedicated to just letting it unfold as I&#8217;d hoped I would from the beginning.</p>
<p>Carol, I thought of you when deciding what to eat at an Italian restaurant the other night. Tuna melt or turkey &#038; avocado? I like to tell myself, &#8220;This is not a cosmic crisis.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>By: carol</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-587</link>
		<dc:creator>carol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:02:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>one thing that I've been thinking about is how some decisions don't matter.  like, if I wear this dress or that one, order this food or that one -- it doesn't matter. I'll have another opportunity to dress up; I'll eat again.  Thinking like this really frees me from the decision of having to make the perfect choice for a rather meaningless and temporary decision.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>one thing that I&#8217;ve been thinking about is how some decisions don&#8217;t matter.  like, if I wear this dress or that one, order this food or that one &#8212; it doesn&#8217;t matter. I&#8217;ll have another opportunity to dress up; I&#8217;ll eat again.  Thinking like this really frees me from the decision of having to make the perfect choice for a rather meaningless and temporary decision.</p>
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		<title>By: Ben Cannon</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-546</link>
		<dc:creator>Ben Cannon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:53:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>"Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend." - wow, powerful stuff.  

"I have invested hours and hours detailing measurable goals and outcomes, doing research to support my arguments, and shaping the proposal into the format that most funders require. The result? Writer’s block in the attempt to communicate my ideas perfectly." 

I've struggled with this constantly myself; in a way perfectionism has always been the single biggest thing holding me back, but also one of the strongest assets I have (if I could just learn to control it like a lightswitch ;)  I'm making baby steps...  but as I sit here working on the new website for our oct 1 launch myself (which I vowed I'd never do again) I realize I may have furthur to go than I thought!

Melia, I had a thought throughout reading this entire post and I thought I'd share it with you:  the more you let go of what reschoolyourself 'should be' and write about what it 'is becoming', the more I for one am enjoying it.  (and I think it's getting better :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend.&#8221; - wow, powerful stuff.  </p>
<p>&#8220;I have invested hours and hours detailing measurable goals and outcomes, doing research to support my arguments, and shaping the proposal into the format that most funders require. The result? Writer’s block in the attempt to communicate my ideas perfectly.&#8221; </p>
<p>I&#8217;ve struggled with this constantly myself; in a way perfectionism has always been the single biggest thing holding me back, but also one of the strongest assets I have (if I could just learn to control it like a lightswitch <img src='http://www.reschoolyourself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  I&#8217;m making baby steps&#8230;  but as I sit here working on the new website for our oct 1 launch myself (which I vowed I&#8217;d never do again) I realize I may have furthur to go than I thought!</p>
<p>Melia, I had a thought throughout reading this entire post and I thought I&#8217;d share it with you:  the more you let go of what reschoolyourself &#8217;should be&#8217; and write about what it &#8216;is becoming&#8217;, the more I for one am enjoying it.  (and I think it&#8217;s getting better <img src='http://www.reschoolyourself.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /></p>
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		<title>By: djschwin</title>
		<link>http://www.reschoolyourself.com/people-pleasing-perfectionism#comment-538</link>
		<dc:creator>djschwin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2008 15:45:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>One time I was riding down an escalator and caught my reflection in the mirrored glass and thought, "That guy looks pretty cool" for a sec before I realized it was me.

The empowerment of creating our own structure and boundaries is something I struggle with every day. Your ten points are great reminders to me as I try to balance my work with having a good time, and hopefully make the two converge as much as possible.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One time I was riding down an escalator and caught my reflection in the mirrored glass and thought, &#8220;That guy looks pretty cool&#8221; for a sec before I realized it was me.</p>
<p>The empowerment of creating our own structure and boundaries is something I struggle with every day. Your ten points are great reminders to me as I try to balance my work with having a good time, and hopefully make the two converge as much as possible.</p>
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